Between Healthy and Dangerous Jealous

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Introduction

A lot of my friend keep asking me about jealous. Is it good or bad. Some other say jealous is always bad, and other say, its always good to be jealous. This is what people think. Unfortunately, human's thought is often wrong. Why? Because they are human. Human is a creature that their instincts of fanaticism, racism, and badness is very high. That what The Angels said. (See el-Baqara: Ayaa 30)

But Allah still create us, because He know what we don't know neither The Angels. Thank to Allah, who create us. From nothing to something.

Now lets get back to our main topic, between healthy and dangerous jealous. The difference between it not so far. If I define it one by one, most of people don't "get it". So I'll make some example then I'll explain.

Healthy Jealous

Example:
You are a student, you try your best to ace your final. You want to make your parent happy with your result. A week before the exam, you learn hardly. You don't do anything except learning and praying for your final. You are extremely ready for the final.

Then when the exam comes, you feel nervous. You take the paper, and you see all the question. You answer all the question. You know about everything there. You say: "Oh God, Its easy". You check your answers again and again. You confident with what you've answered. Than you finished it.

After a few days: You check your result and its "A". You get very excited. You think that you're the one. After a minute; "Allaaahu Akbar", you hear that voice. Then you realize that Ahmed (Your class mate) got better result then you. You feel like you lost your world, all your dream has gone. "Astaghfirullah", you say that word inside your heart, "What I've done?". You feel very "Jealous" to Ahmed. Then you learn harder, to get better than Ahmed and everyone.
----------

Get it? This is, actually, what we say with healthy jealous. It is often called as "Motivation". It is good for you to try this kind of jealous. Don't worry, its not only for student. The point is "To get better with a better way". So every one from every age, and every where, can do it. Just be better with a better way.

Dangerous Jealous

Example:
You are a lover (I'll explain more about: "Love" in Islam next time), you have a very beautiful girlfriend. You've be with her for a month. You extremely love her. You can't live without her. You think that: There is no life except with her, and there is no love except for her.

One day, you go to her house. Then something unexpected happen. You saw she being kissed (Actually by her father that come from Italy, and you don't know him). You get extremely jealous and angry.

One night, when your girlfriend's father (while you don't know that he is your girlfriend's father), go to the lake, you kill him!!! Then you throw him into that lake. How poor your girlfriend is, she just meet her father, and you kill him. After that day, your girlfriend come to you and cry, she said: "My father has been killed. Poor him, he just came to see me and mom from Italy." Then you realize, that the one who you've kill is her father, you said in your heart:"****!!! What the **** I've done".
----------

Now this is the dangerous jealous. Not only dangerous for yourself, it is also dangerous for the people around you. That why Allah ask us to ask to Him for protection to avoid us from this kind of jealous man (See: Soora el-Falaq). Because maybe this kind of jealous man is around us. May Allah protect us from this kind of jealous man.

May Peace always be upon our prophet, Muhammad, and every one who follow his path until the judgment day. Wallahu A'alam.